The First Step to Change is to Contemplate the Personal Qualities You Value and the Things that are Important to You
WHAT ARE VALUES?
Identify your most important Values
Values are not Goals. Your values are the human qualities that inform your everyday interactions: the way you live and work, whereas goals are linked to things you want to have or achieve.
Your personal values are like a moral compass that points you in the direction of how you want to be in the world and what you stand for in life. Your values help you to determine your priorities and to take action towards the things that matter most to you.
When the things that you do and the way you behave are aligned to your values, life is meaningful. But when your actions don't align with your values, that's when things feel... wrong, indicating it might be time to make a change.
This is why making a conscious effort to identify your values is so important.
VALUES MAY CHANGE
Keeping in touch with your Values is a life-long exercise
Values are usually fairly stable, yet they don't have strict limits or boundaries. As you move through life, your values may change.
For example, when you start your career, success – measured by money and status – might be a top priority. But after you have a family, work-life balance may be what you value more.
As your definition of success changes, so do your personal values. This is why keeping in touch with your values is a lifelong exercise. You should continuously revisit this, especially if you start to feel unbalanced... and you can't quite figure out why.
As you go through the values checklist, bear in mind that values that were important in the past may not be relevant now.
USING YOUR VALUES CHECKLIST
Identifying your Values
When you define your personal values, you discover what's truly important to you. A good way of starting to do this is to look back on your life – to identify when you felt really good, and really confident that you were making good choices.
1. Identify when you are happiest from both career and personal life perspectives. Ask what you were doing; who were you with; what other factors contributed to your happiness?
2. Identify when you were most proud again from both career and personal life perspectives. Ask why you were proud; were there others who share your pride; what other factors contributed to you feeling proud?
3. Identify when you were most fulfilled and satisfied from both career and personal life perspectives. Ask what need or desire was fulfilled; how and why did that experience give your life meaning; what other factors contributed to your feeling of fulfilment.
4. Using our Values Checklist, identify up to 5 most important values. If you have more, consider prioritising them. There's no right or wrong answer. Think about how the different values apply to different life domains like Health, Relationship, Leisure, Work or Study or Business.
By becoming more aware of these important factors in your life, you can use them as a guide to make the best choice in any situation.
Some of life's decisions are really about determining what you value most. When many options seem reasonable, it's helpful and comforting to rely on your values – and use them as a strong guiding force to point you in the right direction.
Values vs Goals
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THOUGHTS: Will getting that great job or house really make you happier?